Girls fucking hate each other for no reason!

Lewis was housesitting last night and I trundled on over after working my little fingers to the dish-washin' bone...I love having a house to myself, or mine-and-Lewis'-selves, because we can watch TV and play music and drink wine and play grown-ups pretending that we rent a little house in Northcote together and it's all a fuzzy fantasy you know. Like 'oh I'll just run down and get some milk for the morning' and stuff. Cosy. On a whim we decided to write some music so hopefully we finish what we started on last night.

I have been writing a lot, and here is a piece that I wrote the other day about that woman Jenna Marbles on YouTube (a lot of you don't know that I actually like YouTube very much. Like I subscribe to all the popular vloggers and watch them every day and know their names and their lives and stuff. It's really funny and weird and I love YouTube).

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I am so sick, and so tired, of hearing the word ‘SLUT’. The thing makes me gag.

It’s bad enough to have it bandied around by men, torn between getting off on a woman’s sexuality yet also acting disgusted by it (‘be sexy but don’t have sex!’). But when women call other women sluts…that’s a really awful thing.

So when I was browsing YouTube the other morning over breakfast and coffee, I noticed a video by social media Titan, Jenna ‘Marbles’ Mourey, entitled ‘Things I Don’t Understand About Girls Part 2: Slut Edition.’ To be honest I was expecting some kind of preachy rant about how girls should just be nice to other girls and not impose these kinds of labels on each other etc etc etc. Jenna Marbles has a huge following (at the time of writing this article she had 11,737,292 subscribers on YouTube), and a lot of these followers are young women, even young girls. The content of the video was disappointing to say the least, and incredibly disturbing to say the most.

Jenna Marbles, in general, has some interesting and well-rounded opinions on being a young person in this day and age. She believes in financial independence, has a college degree, supports the legalisation of marijuana and gay marriage, and has no problem confessing her love for junk food and how difficult it is to stay healthy in the face of ‘temptation’. She has made several videos about the importance of being yourself and how you should not compare yourself to others. The video that shot her into YouTube stardom, ‘How To Trick People into Thinking You’re Good-looking’, even comments on the way women are expected to present themselves in society in order to be perceived as attractive and successful. Jenna Marbles clearly has her head screwed on straight.

That’s what makes this ‘Slut Edition’ so terrifying. This woman, who is obviously educated, intelligent, and generally logical, has some truly awful opinions on ‘sluts’, and has no qualms in using the word – repeatedly – to shame, and to humiliate, women who have ‘lots of casual sex’, as she puts it.

Jenna Marbles, the happy-go-lucky YouTube starlet continues to appeal to ‘sluts’, and like a true martyr, offers to befriend them and not let them ‘go get herpes and murdered’. Wow, Jenna, how generous of you to take all the SLUTS of the world under your wing and take care of them! Those stupid, sex manic girls that no one else will touch, like lepers, whose friends have all abandoned them, only you will look out for them, how tragic! Those fucking sluts, when will they learn that sexual pleasure and liberation is only celebrated in men?

She describes one night stands as ‘risky sexual behaviour’, which, in some cases, can be an unfortunately accurate description. But who is at fault here? Does a woman stand to be harmed if she chooses to partake in a one night stand? If so, why does the blame fall on her? I want to know when it became the accepted thing, to teach a woman not to get harmed due to her sexual behaviour, rather than to teach men not to harm the people they are having sex with.

This video exposes Jenna Marbles not only as a slut shamer, but also a massive hypocrite. What happened to the Jenna that pleaded with girls to ‘stop hating each other’, to stop comparing themselves, and to just be themselves? Why has she suddenly decided that a woman’s sexual choices determine her worth as a human being?

Sexual activity IS NOT EQUAL TO intelligence, compassion, self-worth – in fact, sexual activity is not equal to anything but itself. It’s just a thing that humans do and everyone likes it a little differently, just like our food preferences or how we like to dress each day.

I can’t believe in 2013 we still have to explain this. Slut shaming is alive and real and awful today. Unfortunately, women, just like Jenna, can often be the worst offenders.

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Original 'Things I Don't Understand About Girls Part 2: Slut Edition" video from JennaMarbles:

Sex +'s Laci Green responds to the video: